Reader-submitted article by Dustin Smith as part of Stress Awareness Month.
After a year of pandemic isolation, Tampa, Florida, resident Gary Bagwell emerged to finally enjoy a “luxury” he longed for — a haircut. Sitting in the chair for the first time in 18 months, he relaxed and settled in for a little pampering.
When his barber asked a fellow stylist to make change for a $20 bill Bagwell was paying with, the burly co-worker reacted with a barrage of stinging expletives and repeatedly punched the barber, once in the face then ten blows to his head.
In an instant, the peace that Bagwell hoped for turned to panic.
“I’ve never seen such bizarre behavior in my life, said Bagwell. “I think people today are much more on edge.”
In fact, a Gallup poll found higher levels of stress, sadness, anger, and worry in 2020 than ever before at any point in the organization’s global tracking.
Whether victim or observer, an encounter with aggressive or angry behavior can catch anyone off guard. Experts say remaining calm is key to ensuring that a precarious situation doesn’t escalate. Anger management expert Ryan Martin’s advice in Psychology Today was, “Stay calm, stay safe, and don’t make it worse.”
Bagwell agrees. “Inserting myself into a volatile situation like this would only make matters worse,” he said, citing practical advice he was grateful to have recalled from his congregation meetings of Jehovah’s Witnesses.
Frontline workers, airline personnel, educators and others can attest to a trend of increased aggression, even becoming targets.
While working at an auto dealership service desk in Accomack County, Virginia, Matthew Campbell came face-to-face with a father and son who were angry that a major mechanical failure was not covered under their warranty. The situation escalated to the point where other employees became afraid of what would happen next.
“It seems like people are in a pressure cooker. There’s so much tension and it seems like people think the person next to them is an enemy,” said Campbell. “They are not expecting anyone to be friendly or help them.”
Campbell defuses such situations by acting on the Bible principles he is reminded of when he reads articles on jw.org such as, Is it Practical to be Peaceable? and Bible Questions Answered – What is the Golden Rule?
He used a calm tone and tried to empathize with the family. Even though the family did not get the result they were seeking, they did not overreact but accepted the resolution Campbell gave them. “In tense situations, I say a silent prayer,” said Campbell. “I try to put myself in the customer’s shoes and help them feel that they are being heard and that they have an ally.”
For fire inspector Roy La Grone of Grand Rapids, Michigan, such volatile situations have posed a particular challenge. “I’ve had a hard time controlling my anger since I was a kid,” he acknowledged.
After a four-month medical leave that ended in early 2021, he was anxious to return to work. On his first day back, he made a simple suggestion to the owner of the factory he was inspecting. In a split second, the man erupted into a verbal rant riddled with profanities.
To La Grone, the walk of 150 feet to reach the exit door felt like an eternity. The business owner followed him, yelling the entire way, while the office staff stared in stunned disbelief.
“I did everything that I could to try to calm him down,” said La Grone. “I didn’t overreact because I’ve learned that that type of behavior does not help the situation.”
Over the years, La Grone said he has worked hard to minimize his temper. He said that resources from jw.org, the official website of Jehovah’s Witnesses, were particularly useful in dealing with stress, controlling his anger and remaining calm rather than becoming provoked.
“Imitating the good examples of others and applying Bible principles has helped me to remain calm when under pressure,” he said.
Paul Plante says
This article reminds me of why it is nice to be old and not have to be around or anywhere near those crazy people out there in Caesar’s World.